Then tell him, while you are at home, you don’t mind doing it, but when you go back to work, you have to take turns, & work together,

take turns one week him one week u!

Sit down and talk to him about how you feel you are doing the majority of the work and you would like him to help out more. Maybe compromise where you wash and he folds or vice versa.

How about getting him to do it at the weekend. I am worried that he may become used to you doing all this stuff and then get a shock when you return to work. When you’re both working make sure the load is shared. You should be able to agree on sharing tasks around the home, so you both know who does what. That’s important, otherwise you may find you’re both doing the same things – repeating what’ s been done already – like say, you washed the kitchen floor on Wednesday only to find he already cleaned it on Tuesday!

Personally I wouldnt do a man’s laundry unless I were married to him. He is a big boy and can obviously do his own. If you want him to contribute in the housekeeping department you have to make that abundantly clear from the get go. Just have a frank discussion about sharing household responsibilities and come up with some plan you can both agree on. Time enough to be married when you actually are. Although you are living together now, you should still retain a sense of individuality on both sides until you decide to deepen the bond or not. I know it sounds archaic in this day and age dropping the old milk for free addage. But I think there is a little something to that concept….for both parties involved. If all the obligations of a marital circumstance are being met without either party having to commit to the actual real deal…..then what is the incentive to build something real together long term? I could see you stagnating in your current circumstance for who knows how long if you give over completely now. There are certain things both men and women should reserve for that one person they choose to be with forever. Women creating a home for a man…or men supporting a woman to stay home and create that home…..things like that. I think retaining a sense of individuality from the beginning of the serious steps will help you grow as a couple towards a lasting relationship. You will have a better chance at maintaining the level of respect you have for one another now. The alternative is taking each other for granted from the beginning and setting each other up for mediocrity later because eventually someones going to feel put upon after the cycle of blind expectation is established.