I NEED HELP, I feel like I am a door mat, How do I get him to go?!!!?
I have dating this guy for almost a year and this is my 2nd real relationship. I feel that I am always having to go 90% of the way and he only comes in when it is convenient for him. My 22nd birthday is coming up & I planned a huge bash w/ my BFF (Best Friend) at a nice hotel in LA (The Standard Hotel) He refuses to come. He has made every excuse in the book and has yet to provide with a real honest to god reason as to why he can’t come to own girlfriend’s Birthday party. He didn’t want to share a room with my BFF and her Guy so booked my own. I even offered to pay for it. All he has to do is show up, and he can’t seem to that for me. What should I do? HE IS NOT TRYING TO SURPRISE ME! (PLEASE NO MEAN ANSWERS, I REALLY NEED HELP)
13 Responses
LADY R
24 Feb 2010
Shanana
24 Feb 2010
Find someone who will appreciate you.
Leave him, that’s all i can say. You’re worth way more
than that!
<3
24 Feb 2010
omg dump him he’s an ass u deserve better
Cassie D
24 Feb 2010
Sorry but your boyfriend sounds like an a***. I think he is just using you when it suits him because you let him. tell him how you feel and if he doesn’t care then you are better off without him!
priscilla v
24 Feb 2010
you should ask him 1 more time, if he says no then tell him "fine, u dont have to come anyway, i’ll go clubing with all my other friends and meet cute guys and wut the heck….y not flirt with them?!" then you will get his attention
air
24 Feb 2010
Why you end up with him by the way?. If he doesn’t want do anything what he is for. Maybe you should celebrate with your friend, forget about him.
Ron H
24 Feb 2010
I’m afraid you can’t force him to go. Pay attention to the omens, they are always telling us something. Maybe there is something, or someone special you are going to find in your travels through time. Happy Birthday!
blondemoment22
24 Feb 2010
ask him what is going on. be nice about him and say that yor really concerned about what might be going on. let him know that you feel like hes hiding something from you. if that doesnt work you could say that if hes not going to be honest with you its going to be hard to keep the relationship going.
Good luck and i hope this work out!***
Rejyy
24 Feb 2010
I don’t know your boyfriend. But perhaps some of these things may be the reason why he wont go?
- He feels uncomfortable around your friends?
- He may not be into the whole idea?
- He feels uncomfortable around a certain person going
- That or hes being an arse
J-Dawg
24 Feb 2010
honestly…i think u should break up. it seems like he doesn’t care. i mean you’re paying for everything planned everything. all he has to do is show up and he cant even do that. why should u put up w/ that
Rachel R
24 Feb 2010
Honestly i think you deserve better, you deserve a guy who always wants to be with you. I think your right it doesnt seem like he is putting any effort into yalls relationship, at least your seeing his true colors before it got anymore serious than it already is. Sorry to say this, but i think you should move on, he is only holding you back. What if there is a really great guy out there who was made for you. You dont want to miss out on that. Have hope and ask God to send him to you and to put your relationships in his hands. good luck and happy birthday.
Mother2
24 Feb 2010
I hope you don’t think this is mean but you need to let him go that was so mean what he did to you and he don’t want to celebrate your birthday with you how dare he treat you like that. Well just learn from this and move listen to that song by Rhiana (Take A Bow) while your getting over him it will make you feel better.Good Luck
(=animallover=)
24 Feb 2010
I dont want to be mean but really you should really talk to him!!! you should be happy your birthday is coming up!! if he doesn’t want to go just don’t make him!! it will be okay as long as you have friends that will support you! but you so deserve better then him
You should just enjoy your birthday and not worry bout him!! because he obviously doesn’t no what he is missing and thats all on him! i may not know a whole bunch on relationships but i do know that you just need to have fun and enjoy your time in LA!!! it will be okay wether you choose to stay with him or not, i’m promiseing you that it will be okay!!!!
I hope you don’t take what i said in a bad way…..if so then i’m deeply sorry and hope i helped a bit!
Obviously, this guy doesn’t care for you all that much…especially if you really know that you give more into the relationship.
So, if he can’t put in any effort to be with you.. then there’s no reason you should still be wasting your time with him.. which i think you are.
In my opinion.. i think it’s best if you guys just broke up already. I know.. that’s probably really hard and you prob love him and everything.. but there’s someone waiting for you who wants to give you more than you can.