Do you think being accommodating makes you a door mat?
If you’re always the friend going the extra mile and shifting your schedule around others’, do you become taken for granted. If you make yourself available and make people feel like you’re always there to talk to and help them, are you setting yourself up for disappointment when it comes time for them to return the favor?
5 Responses
Gerry
04 Feb 2010
Don’tLabel
04 Feb 2010
Yes and yes. You should never base your life around your friends, or anyone else. You can’t give and nothing is not being given.
steven
04 Feb 2010
you can either be a sheep or you can be a Shepherd, its up to you!! but yes, give people an inch and they will take a mile!
Tihama S
04 Feb 2010
alot of the time yea, i know from personal experience. it doesnt necessarily mean your a doormat though, just a people pleaser i think.
Mr. Peter
04 Feb 2010
a doormat is a doormat, a good person that is always there for someone is just a good person… if the other person treats the good person like crap then it’s the other person who’s an asshole.
A doormat person is that way because they are afraid of ridicule or conflict.
there is a fine line between going the extra mile and unknowingly putting the word welcome on your forehead. the best way to not get stepped on is to do for others for the sake of it itself. if you do for others hoping they will be grateful in a meaningful way or will be there for you , your in for a lot of doormat treatment and disappointment.