My guy and I live together. He has a 22 year old step daughter who doesn’t like me. She and I used to get along and I thought things were going quite well until he told me that she called me a door mat to his face.

She doesn’t live with us (thank goodness) but she’s just so jealous of me and because of the things she has said about me, I don’t like her or ever want her around.

Tomorrow is my guys birthday and he still has to move alot of his things into our apartment. I have been asking him for months when he is going to do this. I just found out that, he is going to his old place on his birthday to start moving his things over here. When I questioned him this morning about it, he said he’d have to ask his daughter first. Now I’m mad. I thought it was his idea to just go over and move furniture etc, but it seems like she has made plans for his birthday and of course, I’m not included.

Is it my right to feel upset about this? I am beginning to think I’m just as jealous as her
I don’t think he has any plans on leaving me at anytime. He is in fact, very dedicated to me. Maybe this is his way of trying to keep things on an even keel so to speak. The thing is, I see it as him telling me half truths and it bothers me.

Btw, leaving him because of extra baggage isn’t the solution…I tried to make a go of things with his step daughter and as far as I’m concerned, she is the one who doesn’t want the relationship to work. She feels as though I am someone to compete with and I won’t buy into her little games. He on the other hand, should always be honest with me.

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Ladies…What is she doing? She has been online dating and meeting up with guys for a couple weeks. She still visits to see our two sons, and to get sex from me. She says that she is messed up and wants to stop. She was going to counseling, but cancelled her last appointment this week. I was paying her car and health insurance as well as letting her use my computer and my laundry room. All of that has been removed as I feel like a door mat. The sad part is that I love her more than ever, still believe in her, but she is driving me nuts!!! I have not yet restricted her from our two sons. How patient should I be and what should I do?

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Ok here I go, I really want a boyfried to love me for me and treat me like a human being as my ex seemed to treat me like a door mat, any ideas where abouts I will find one in or around Bexleyheath, Kent, England? Aged around 23-26?

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well ive getting over her and have gotten over her and we have a special friendship. we also made an agreement. You see I dont mind hanging out and havin fun but i told her if I am going to pay for the meal or the movie ( she goes to school and doesnt always have money) then consider it a date. but I stipulated that if she likes some other dude or bangs some other dude she should let me know because I feel it aint fair to me to offer to pay for her dinner or movie ticket if she is off with another dude. let him pay for a movie or dinner im not a door mat and u aint gonna use me. she totally agreed and said she understood. but last night she is like all dont buy me nothing no more and acts like she never ever remembered making the agreement. what is up with her also a part 2 to this

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Alright my hubby does work in bars, he travels around to different bars and collects the money and fixes the equipment. Theres this one route he runs once or twice a month, and 99% of the time that he runs this route, hes late and has been drinking. This has been going on for 5 years now. I have two small step sons and two sons of my own and also 25 weeks with his son. Im getting so tired of being a door mat. I dont get the option to just stop and have a beer whenever i feel like it. What do i do. Ive expressed this so many times to him but its like he doesnt care how it makes me feel. I stay at home and raise kids, thats my life. Im here all day everyday and every single night. Unless of course him and i go out together, which NEVER happens. How would you handle this situation? Like today hes had "a few beers" he usually calls everymorning, but today he didnt call at all. When i finally got ahold of him, he simply said he was out of town. That was all he said until i asked. Help me
oh yea and to this day, he still brings up the fact that i didnt come home until 4am on my 21st birthday, i was out with two of my sisters and did nothing wrong, but he doesnt get it. Thats the only time ive ever been out by myself. guess i blew that one myself.

i have this friend who i’ve known for more than 2 years, we use to date but called it quits after he found someone else while i was gone for like a month, so we decided to be friends n its been off and on, first he had a gf who didn’t want him to hang with me so i backed off n then he broke up with her, i’ve always been there for him but he just ignores me like i don’t exist, when he is hurting i try to cheer him up but all he does is talk about other women n i just listen bcoz im trying to be a good friend, but lately he’s been ignoring me like i don’t exist, so i told him i was tired of everything he does n that i no longer want to be friends anymore, i don’t know if its the right thing to do or should i keep being a good friend n a door mat.

He replied :put the house up for sale
we will both live here until home is sold
once home is sold we will file for a divorce
we will go our own ways
i said two years of failing watching you lay in bed for 104 days out of 1 year for you were depressed i tried to be supportive and understanding
the next year eight months of no employment then got rehiredand was scolded when using incomepaycheck to pay bills.his reply ?you dont like me so i figured why try -i begged him to see a counsler which he wouldnt,then four hours later he states: well,do you want to both give it an hinest try
or ditch it and go
i replied i dont know what to say you already gave me alot to digest this morning,then it was like a count down till it was time for him to go to work.
i dont like the person hes become corrections has a way of changing people
i dont appreciate being the door mat
i wanted to be loved and charished but by the 7th year of marriage it began to unravel.
ive been stolen from and liedto

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okay so im well, not straight and i like my best friend….and i think he knows it because we have done some stuff well ive done them and hes let me……but he tells everyone he is straight… and well he really doesnt treat me rite and he uses me as a door mat around everyone….but wen we’re alone he acts like the sweetest guy in the world…and now he has a GF and i mean i want to be happy and support him but i cant …. i get a lito jealous….wat do i do?

IVE BEEN WITH MY BOYFRIEND FOR ABOUT 7 YRS. I NO THAT HE HAS NOT BEEN FAITHFUL THRO OUT THE YEARS .BUT WUT CAN I SAY 2 HIM THAT WILL GET THROGH TO HIM.IM TIRED OF BEING HIS DOOR MAT.AND NOW I FIND HIM ON ALL THESE SIGHTS AND TEXT MESSEAGES AND DISTURBING PIX ON HIS CELL.IVE STARTED ACCOUNTS ON THESE SITES WITH DIFFERENT NAMES WITH NO PIX .DOES NE HAVE SUM THAT I CAN BORROW 2 LURE HIM IN FOR THE KILL

says she feels numb inside. I have done everything for this girl met her at my mom’s funeral and thought it was destiny. This was in Nov 2005. She lived in a bad neighborhood but was content I suppose. I took her and her 13 yr old daughter and gave them a life like a queen. I gave her evrything I could and moved 3 times for her to better homes now my money is tight and she is slowly pushing my buttons. I gave all for love now I will pay the price. I took a chance and I will have lost everything after all this my Mom would be so upset with me. I will have nothing to offer anyone now after I finally decide to file for divorce. I am scared to. She stays in bed until noon and takes alot of pills. She does not have to work but says she is tired and does not want me to use her as her door mat any more.
All I ever did was expect super and my lunch for work and for her not to go to bars without me. Otherwise she went shooping etc. She even picks on my pet cat now. I cant have it up stairs..

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