bit of a daft question but please answer lol adults only?
in a relationship what subtle things can i do to keep it alive e.g what things can i do and say for my man that will keep it alive but not turn me into a door mat!! cause every relationship i have i get taken for granted and im determined not to let this happen again…. all answers will be appreciated.. thanx xxx
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designergirl
22 Aug 2010
T
22 Aug 2010
I say, mix it up. Don’t be completely predictable. If he knows exactly what you are doing all the time, there is no mystery. Go have dinner with the girls. Read books you normally wouldn’t read. Try to learn a new skill. Take cooking classes, ballroom dancing, photography, whatever.
Be flirty, and do have a good time when you are together. But, don’t always be completely available to do whatever he wants. Give him a chance to miss you a little.
And when you say something is important to you, don’t give in on it! Not everything should be super important, but when something is, don’t let go of it.
For example, if he wants to move in with you and he has pictures of his ex lying around and you are uncomfortable with it, he needs to pack up every last one long before you even think about it seriously.
Anyway, hope this helps! :0)
no1advice
22 Aug 2010
Be independent and not needy. Men who use you as a door mat look for gals who can’t take care of themselves and are weak with low self esteem. So build up your self esteem. Get yourself a new hairstyle. Work on YOU. Be self assertive and not let the guy roll over you. Don’t live together.
Its not a daft question, this is something we all think about. I used to make a lot more effort than I do now, i think being thoughtfull and attentive are the most important things, suprised and nights out etc. And keeping things alive in the bed room is always a good idea, try new things and experiment!